Giving Up to Get Ahead

Sunset Over MexicoEvery so often, it’s not such a bad idea to give up.

The word I really want to use is surrender, but I’m not really sure what that word means in the truest sense. I’m going to barge right ahead and use it anyway.

Once every ten years or so, I get to the point where I just want to surrender. I feel like I have done everything that can be done to accomplish my goals, and nothing seems to be happening. The feeling usually lasts for anywhere between three minutes and three days.

The funny thing is I find that I actually get somewhere when I reach this point. In one sense, it’s a scary place, a place of desperation, a feeling of being at the end of my rope. But I’ve found it can be an auspicious place. I wrote this yesterday on the subject (in less than three minutes).

I want to go higher, but don’t know how. It seems like I’ve tried everything, only to fall, crashing back to earth, unkindly.

I think, however, I’ve been this way before. When it seems like I have looked in every crevice and corner, turned over every stone, in search of the faintest glimmer of light—the light is usually not very far away.

There comes a time when Grace is met by human effort. I know that Grace will have to come sooner, rather than later, because I have been relentless in my pursuit of peace, joy, and love. Life becomes much easier when you know what you want.

One of the good things about advancing age is that it makes it easier to focus on priorities. I mean real priorities—the meaningful stuff, because the clock is ticking, louder and louder. There simply isn’t time to screw around with trivialities and false values. I’m tired of the tricks my mind plays on me. I’m tired of chasing my tail. I’m tired of being lost in the fun house of illusion.

I want the real thing—the beauty within my heart—and I know that it can’t be far away. I’ve been everywhere, done everything, made a fool of myself, and accomplished a few things. You can’t elude me much longer, dear Friend.

Photo Credits: “Sunset Over Mexico” by Bettina Schwehn / uniqraphy , Illusion Photo by Mateusz Stachowski

Lost in the Fun House of Illusion

Lost in the Fun House of Illusion

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  1. #1 by Happy Joe (@happyjoeshow) on September 15, 2013 - 11:05 am

    Great post on feelings I’ve also experienced. Someone once said, “The key to happiness is managing your expectations.” This sounds smart to me, but I often find it hard to not mismanage.


    • #2 by David Gittlin on September 15, 2013 - 2:56 pm

      Hi Joe:

      I think the key is to set realistic, achievable goals. There are motivational speakers who talk about “the power within you,” and “you can achieve anything,” but I’ve found it makes me happier tos shoot for attainable goals and goals that can make me truly happy from the inside out.


  2. #3 by David Gittlin on September 13, 2013 - 5:40 pm

    Thanks for your support, dear daughter.


  3. #4 by Michele Seminara on September 13, 2013 - 12:10 pm

    Beautifully put David. Although I am not a Christian, one of favourite sayings in times of stress is ‘Be still, and know that I am God.’ When we surrender, grace can flow in. Just the reminder I needed right now – thank you!


    • #5 by David Gittlin on September 13, 2013 - 1:01 pm

      Hi Michelle:

      I’m so glad it resonated with you. Be well, be in peace, be in joy.


  4. #6 by Rebecca on September 12, 2013 - 5:22 pm

    Yes, David. Sometimes we do just need to “give up” in the sense of “giving over” to life and see what happens. You know how sometimes you can just tell about a person whether you would like them or not. I think I would like you very much. You seem a very sensitive, loving soul. Keep writing and God bless.


    • #7 by David Gittlin on September 13, 2013 - 12:20 am

      Hi Rebecca:

      Thanks for the kind words. I wish you peace, love, and joy, and success in all of your endeavors.


  5. #8 by dgittlin1 on September 12, 2013 - 4:31 pm

    Loved this! Keep on writing!

    Danielle Gittlin


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